tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post7271974788227241538..comments2023-10-11T04:09:53.564-07:00Comments on materfamilias writes: What I'm Wearing: To Please Myselfmaterfamiliashttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comBlogger54125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-86614057976137281182017-09-04T16:26:31.624-07:002017-09-04T16:26:31.624-07:00Completely understand the shyness, and I'm ver...Completely understand the shyness, and I'm very appreciative of you taking the time and mustering the boldness to write such kind words here. I'll know you're out there now, even if you never comment again ;-)materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-55862323420065644312017-09-04T16:25:30.214-07:002017-09-04T16:25:30.214-07:00Oh, there are wobbly bits. . . ;-)Oh, there are wobbly bits. . . ;-)materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-8713054951710192212017-08-31T09:56:00.260-07:002017-08-31T09:56:00.260-07:00Cycling without worrying about others (far ahead? ...Cycling without worrying about others (far ahead? far behind? should we stop here? take this route?), that is indeed true freedom and I understand how this would please you. I like this celebration. And congratulations on your anniversary and the life you've had together.<br /><br />Many bloggers I know see down times in the summer. I think things will perk back up in the autumn, when people tend to be indoors more in this hemisphere at least. But I'm glad you're doing what pleases you. Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06218727738029858422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-65048527282764981332017-08-30T21:21:49.631-07:002017-08-30T21:21:49.631-07:00Mmm, I'll let this imbalance roll around in my...Mmm, I'll let this imbalance roll around in my mind a bit, and then jot a few thoughts. Well, there's one difference already: You sorting out your thoughts carefully, planning ahead, writing a coherent post, vs. readers just reading, or commenting from time to time, and all in all, spending not too much time on a response. A thoughtful blog, such as yours, seems to be to be a remarkably generous effort. And your effort to respond to all comments takes the generosity over the top. Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04174162283476551873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-89800577415555786632017-08-30T20:28:52.501-07:002017-08-30T20:28:52.501-07:00Good for you to work on your core! You are active ...Good for you to work on your core! You are active biking and running and I see no wobbly bits in your OOTD images so you must be doing some things light.<br /><br />I've lost a couple of pounds already....will rejoin the gym after labour day weekend...I actually was going regularly until Mom got really ill and needed us to take care of her and I had to let it go. I hope to make a commitment to 3 times a week.hostess of the humble bungalowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06453827257671312902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-55570965358040090452017-08-30T09:50:33.557-07:002017-08-30T09:50:33.557-07:00I have been reading your blog for almost two years...I have been reading your blog for almost two years and I have never commented. I think I'm too shy to express my opinions on the web. However, I just wanted to say how much I enjoy your writing and look forward to receiving a new post in my email. I love reading about your travels, your outfits and your musings on life. Thank you for continuing to write. Cosimomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07487269897403652906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-44471479832383434842017-08-30T08:18:06.368-07:002017-08-30T08:18:06.368-07:00Me too with the remiss-ness. . .
Your comment re ...Me too with the remiss-ness. . . <br />Your comment re people-pleasing meshes with my exchange with Murphy, above. I'm often frustrated with those who exhort me not to care what others think. Not so easy to overcome a lifetime's conditioning, but I've done pretty well, overall, getting the big strokes right, at least. Now some fine-tuning ;-)materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-31386688494121161602017-08-30T08:15:21.059-07:002017-08-30T08:15:21.059-07:00Thanks for taking the time to comment on this post...Thanks for taking the time to comment on this post, Meems, but I never want you to feel apologetic that you hadn't time to do so. I know I often find I need time to chew over what I've read, and by the time I'm ready to write a response, there's no time to get back -- even though, as you say, sometimes those well-written posts can nudge us in a different direction, "change the narrative of life." <br />Your last line shocked me a bit, even though I've been looking at the calendar. No! August gone already?! Well then, come on Fall, let's do this! materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-28219012205364494562017-08-30T08:11:54.493-07:002017-08-30T08:11:54.493-07:00It's not as easy to do, is it, as those with d...It's not as easy to do, is it, as those with different personalities or upbringings or whatever seem to think, those who admonish us, often rather brusquely, not to care what others think. But it's a good think to aim at, to figure out what it is we truly want and then see how to get at least some of it. . . .And, as ceci says, above, the world tends not to fall apart when we do.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-60818178602361664802017-08-30T08:08:18.553-07:002017-08-30T08:08:18.553-07:00You have such a lovely spot for respite from the s...You have such a lovely spot for respite from the summer crowds. It's good, isn't it, when we can enjoy different rhythms, where quiet feels good for a month but also readies us for a bit more action.<br />And yes, Vive la difference indeed! materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-84098865963391451282017-08-30T08:06:02.698-07:002017-08-30T08:06:02.698-07:00Thanks Ali. Sounds as if you've engineered a l...Thanks Ali. Sounds as if you've engineered a life wherein you know just how to please yourself and you go for it. Well done! materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-59834530984416369232017-08-30T08:03:57.359-07:002017-08-30T08:03:57.359-07:00I'll add that book to my list of Holds Request...I'll add that book to my list of Holds Requested at the public library.<br />Hope the Moroccan chicken works well for you -- I've never made it, but I enjoy the results of my husband's research and work. <br />Sounds as if you and your husband have found a good way to balance what pleases whom re Travel. . ..materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-26849295989803719112017-08-30T08:01:38.531-07:002017-08-30T08:01:38.531-07:00Yes, not a revolution but a switch -- well put! I ...Yes, not a revolution but a switch -- well put! I was always one to look after others as well, from childhood as the big sister, through my own child-rearing, and then with my students. But I'm a pretty fast learner as well.<br />And I must agree with you -- the comments are great! materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-54108339722080337752017-08-30T08:00:01.341-07:002017-08-30T08:00:01.341-07:00Wonderful! A good reminder that sometimes the sill...Wonderful! A good reminder that sometimes the silly, the short-term, the very immediate simple and sensory pleasures are what we need to develop the habit of pleasing ourselves. Practice, practice, practice! Do not wait to be an old woman before you wear purple or red hats . . . or Minnie Mouse tee shirts with camo leggings ;-)materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-89810473285248453202017-08-30T07:57:55.556-07:002017-08-30T07:57:55.556-07:00It's so true, Ceci. Here, as well, once I sort...It's so true, Ceci. Here, as well, once I sort out what pleases me, it turns out that it can generally be managed without anyone howling. It's the figuring out and feeling okay about what I've decided that sometimes is tough. And thinking long term is important, as Marsha suggests above.<br />And I see a fairy in a feather boa as well. It's the marabou! materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-58039843629572125732017-08-30T07:52:31.950-07:002017-08-30T07:52:31.950-07:00I'll be curious to see if the no-alcohol regim...I'll be curious to see if the no-alcohol regime makes a difference for you. My push, for the moment, is in the gym, doing a better job of strengthening my core. . .<br />As for the last of the summer sunshine, isn't it just going on and on and on here. . . what an odd summer!materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-41650716097157904422017-08-30T07:49:20.334-07:002017-08-30T07:49:20.334-07:00Sounds as if you're very clear about what plea...Sounds as if you're very clear about what pleases you and that life has taught you to honour that -- and Martini Mondays! What a gift to the world ;-)<br />The dream -- too funny, and now I'm scouting the neighbourhood for real estate that might suit a fabric shop!! (kidding!)<br />So glad your summer rental worked well, and I'm sure you'll enjoy your weeks at the cottage. Missing my beach time this year. . . . materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-31106426513019918172017-08-30T07:39:34.052-07:002017-08-30T07:39:34.052-07:00Great comment, Marsha! I think its so important to...Great comment, Marsha! I think its so important to acknowledge that often it's not enjoyable, or fun, even, to please ourselves. Sometimes we do have to force ourselves, do things that don't especially please us in the short term, to make ourselves content in the long term. Pleasing ourselves is not always taking the easy route and sometimes it takes considerable discernment to figure out the way. Thanks for the work you're doing.<br />materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-7406584783405790352017-08-30T07:36:20.877-07:002017-08-30T07:36:20.877-07:00Speaking for this blog writer, I'm delighted t...Speaking for this blog writer, I'm delighted to read whatever you care to write, and should you choose to ramble here, I'm generally quite honoured -- and interested! I sometimes feel daunted by the obligation to respond adequately, but I've been trying to let go of that sense of obligation and realise that the commenter isn't writing only to me nor does she need me to respond to each point she makes. materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-39107001053357633432017-08-29T23:46:25.106-07:002017-08-29T23:46:25.106-07:00This is something I wonder about . What do you blo...This is something I wonder about . What do you blog writers expect of us . Should we keep it short & sweet for fear of rambling on ? I am inclined to ramble <br />Wendy in YorkAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-32853942078797862302017-08-29T16:02:16.856-07:002017-08-29T16:02:16.856-07:00Oh dear, ear worm!!!
I'd love to know more ab...Oh dear, ear worm!!! <br />I'd love to know more about what you think might be written about our relationship, blog writers and blog readers.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-81739244921886328492017-08-29T16:01:35.953-07:002017-08-29T16:01:35.953-07:00I feel like this sometimes myself -- unsure what r...I feel like this sometimes myself -- unsure what really does please me, but like you, I think I'm learning. <br />When I think of my mending experiment, I remember our chat over coffee in Berlin, that coat, those sleeves. . . materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-89634984660432621762017-08-29T16:00:27.468-07:002017-08-29T16:00:27.468-07:00Yes! I think it's really important to acknowle...Yes! I think it's really important to acknowledge the cultural conditioning and current context that makes it difficult to "please ourselves." When it's expected that will equate to "make our children happy." . . . materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-37775128128180548122017-08-29T15:59:05.269-07:002017-08-29T15:59:05.269-07:00Ugh to the health issues and even more to the poli...Ugh to the health issues and even more to the political climate you're living in. But as you suggest, we can't help others if we don't look after ourselves first-- as Meems/Anonymous comments below, those flight attendants always remind us to put our own oxygen mask on first . . . materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-42051264882523963202017-08-29T15:56:42.883-07:002017-08-29T15:56:42.883-07:00Always pleased to get you thinking ;-) Yes, those ...Always pleased to get you thinking ;-) Yes, those peignoirs. . . does anyone besides Barbie really wear them IRL? Poor Mom, rolling her eyes on Christmas morning, thinking of all the things she'd really have liked. . . <br /> Thanks re the T -- I do like a good V-neck, and happy Frenchness, of course.<br />materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.com