tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post5023440422010928372..comments2023-10-11T04:09:53.564-07:00Comments on materfamilias writes: Garden Patiencematerfamiliashttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-80907366854458611122010-09-02T16:43:22.110-07:002010-09-02T16:43:22.110-07:00Alison: Mine never expresses boredom or expectatio...Alison: Mine never expresses boredom or expectation, which almost makes it worse. She'll just sit, but then I find it sooooo awkward.<br />I should have thought of the radio -- mom used to really like our National Radio, CBC, altho' the programming has changed in recent years to attract a younger crowd, so isn't quite as suited to her. I ended up buying one of those little DVD players and a swack of old classic DVDs -- she was quite enjoying Singin' in the Rain -- but whether or not she'll remember how to set it up again when she gets home is another story.<br />And yes, I feel mean almost no matter what . . .materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-18306550885093501962010-09-02T03:55:43.829-07:002010-09-02T03:55:43.829-07:00Yes, I feel your pain. Very similar to my mother y...Yes, I feel your pain. Very similar to my mother you too suffer from that constant niggling feeling that when she visits she should somehow be 'entertained' in some way. <br />I walk mine with the dog and end up making trite conversation. On holiday I was blessed that she read a lot as she point blank refuses to watch DVD's. The other bonus is she loves radio 4 and carries a little radio with her. I pray I do not become such a millstone, and then feel mean for even thinking that!indigo16https://www.blogger.com/profile/16982477144454205765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-23191676474038271752010-09-01T10:35:40.880-07:002010-09-01T10:35:40.880-07:00Tiffany: It's certainly a learning experience!...Tiffany: It's certainly a learning experience! In some ways, it's the easiest I've ever found our relationship to be; in others, it's quite difficult -- especially when I think how small the gap really easy between where I am age-wise, and where she is . . . I would HATE not to be able to read!<br />Mardel: I hear the wisdom and the experience in your voice here -- thank you!<br />LBR: I think the bloom I'm finding is my own recognition of hopes I still had -- and the learning how to let them go.<br />Patricia: Your response is lovely because it reminds me to look across the generations at my blessings -- thank you!materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-13660543624068323532010-09-01T08:39:27.636-07:002010-09-01T08:39:27.636-07:00LPC: That's hard to imagine here, at this poin...LPC: That's hard to imagine here, at this point, but perhaps they will become my nemesis as well. I admire the large blocks of them that we've seen in Paris and London and would love them to make a bigger show here, but will keep your caution in mind. ;-)<br />Hostess: I'm glad mom's fitness is so good, but the memory loss and cognitive impairment is very disconcerting -- still, we'll manage to make the most of our time here.<br />Pseu: The shade does seem to do the trick!<br />And ah, do I remember the energy of a 13-year old boy -- good luck with that!materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-39597237390562075162010-08-31T23:04:16.357-07:002010-08-31T23:04:16.357-07:00Somehow I missed yesterday's post - lovely fam...Somehow I missed yesterday's post - lovely family pictures! Congrats to Daughter No. 3 (is that Megan?) and her fiancé. And Nola - wow, when did she become a little girl?<br /><br />It's so nice that you can have your mum over to visit. I'm sure she is happy just spending the time with you, enjoying your home and your garden. She has everything she needs. PatriciaPatriciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05504513116873595049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-48631933088714809192010-08-31T23:03:33.670-07:002010-08-31T23:03:33.670-07:00Somehow I missed yesterday's post - lovely fam...Somehow I missed yesterday's post - lovely family pictures! Congrats to Daughter No. 3 (is that Megan?) and her fiancé. And Nola - wow, when did she become a little girl?<br /><br />It's so nice that you can have your mum over to visit. I'm sure she is happy just spending the time with you, enjoying your home and your garden. She has everything she needs. PatriciaPatriciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05504513116873595049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-22250178368355727412010-08-31T21:32:51.468-07:002010-08-31T21:32:51.468-07:00It is extraordinary what a wonderful teacher natur...It is extraordinary what a wonderful teacher nature can be. Acanthus taught you patience just as you needed it. I hope your time with your mother presents unexpected blossoms.La Belette Rougehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686717070120116918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-26434251836303749502010-08-31T18:15:57.650-07:002010-08-31T18:15:57.650-07:00The acanthus is beautiful. It is not hardy here....The acanthus is beautiful. It is not hardy here.<br /><br />Life changes so. Enjoy the moments you do have with your mom.Mardelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04850551308931710502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-85417296542130838782010-08-31T15:13:26.781-07:002010-08-31T15:13:26.781-07:00illusive should be elusive. Spelling gremlins str...illusive should be elusive. Spelling gremlins strike again!Susan Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16005855250089328310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-90565770111457500652010-08-31T15:07:19.222-07:002010-08-31T15:07:19.222-07:00You are being very philosophical - it must be hard...You are being very philosophical - it must be hard to watch your mother change like this ... And you're lucky you have such a patient partner in Pater. How I hope that when I am older I don't lose the ability to read or finish things; but as this is of course possible, perhaps it's a reminder to make the most of now.<br />Thank you for sharing what must be difficult ...Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11536212906241844509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-57719792232769895692010-08-31T15:02:33.664-07:002010-08-31T15:02:33.664-07:00I remember learning that acanthus are good shade p...I remember learning that acanthus are good shade plants, maybe the little bit extra from the pergola was just what it needed?<br /><br />I hear you regarding you mom. I think Pater has the right idea; she may be quite content to just be in the moment, and relax with a nice view. Our Patience Required family situation is focused in the other generational direction, and sometimes the Zen is illusive. As are new ways to keep an energetic 13-year-old entertained on weekends! But we slog on.Susan Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16005855250089328310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-62910657501105884862010-08-31T09:06:52.973-07:002010-08-31T09:06:52.973-07:00Awkward times, emotional challenges, but neverthel...Awkward times, emotional challenges, but nevertheless, times spent together connecting. <br />It is sad to watch as I have recently seen with my own mother as her memory is starting to fail.<br />It is great that your mother is able to walk for hours, mine cannot and I wish we could walk together.<br /><br />Life does change...and we can't fight it just accept and with any luck, find that "Zen place" <br /><br />Poignant post mater...hostess of the humble bungalowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06453827257671312902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-78070262639433447522010-08-31T09:05:07.840-07:002010-08-31T09:05:07.840-07:00Acanthus are my nemesis. I have to fight to keep t...Acanthus are my nemesis. I have to fight to keep them from taking over.LPChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18209861350905135093noreply@blogger.com