tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post8240589354637957006..comments2023-10-11T04:09:53.564-07:00Comments on materfamilias writes: Shorter Days, Christmas Preparations . . . Gifts of the Seasonmaterfamiliashttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-81374621527071410172013-12-12T22:14:49.032-08:002013-12-12T22:14:49.032-08:00The email is never available for anyone to see. . ...The email is never available for anyone to see. . . But as a compromise you can do what a number of commenters do, and continue using the Anonymous option but then include your name/pseudonym to close your comment, as Lettys does, above. It's very nice for me and for others in our little community here to begin to build up a sense of the various commenting personalities. . .Whichever system you decide on, thanks for your comments today.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-31869038327255209452013-12-12T14:28:56.406-08:002013-12-12T14:28:56.406-08:00I am not the Anonymous who responded to you earlie...I am not the Anonymous who responded to you earlier and I totally believe their comment was just plain MEAN. I, too, have experienced family discord after death of a parent and I'm always trying to forgive but forgetting seems to haunt me. I only wish you the best. But, help me out here because I'm kinda new to this commenting business....how do I comment without giving out my email address (or is it never available to anyone else)? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-48932377204311798722013-12-12T06:35:46.123-08:002013-12-12T06:35:46.123-08:00I do wonder if unfamiliarity with the medium (and ...I do wonder if unfamiliarity with the medium (and sometimes the choice to remain Anonymous is at least partly fuelled by discomfort/unfamiliarity) means that comments can sound much harsher than they are intended. I did feel a bit stung by the comment, as I've wished so much this past year that I could, indeed, fix the family rift (not a feud at all, truly) and it's so much more complex. But I tried to wonder if the comment might have been left out of genuine concern, perhaps even by someone on whom family feuds have left a mark. I will say that, being as Non-Anonymous as I choose to be here, I choose my words and then revise and then edit very carefully. Tone is so very important and sometimes harder to control than one might think.<br />I do thank you for your loyalty, Lettys, and your spirited defense. Enjoy those small kidlets who make your Christmas so busy, exhausting, and utterly satisfying. So rich!materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-81662863916447142882013-12-12T03:57:33.543-08:002013-12-12T03:57:33.543-08:00Brava Mater for your elegant riposte. What a hect...Brava Mater for your elegant riposte. What a hectoring, supercilious, mean-spirited comment from Anon. And why are such comments always, but always, Anon...?<br />I have small kidlets so Christmas is full on here: real tree, baking, Nativity plays, carol services, furtive wrapping of intriguing packages in secret...<br />LettysAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-25994356309865811732013-12-11T15:43:13.819-08:002013-12-11T15:43:13.819-08:00I love the fullness of rich tradition, but it can ...I love the fullness of rich tradition, but it can only be oppressive. It felt quite freeing to realize that I could simply let go -- and putting it in perspective now, I see what a good thing this has become for all of us. This year, my adult children will organize most of the Christmas activities, as we did ourselves at their age, and we're quite happy simply to follow their lead. I t will be Harriet's first real Christmas, as you say, and the first one where she and Nola will really be interacting. I'm pretty excited!materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-76767188901290792013-12-11T15:40:57.316-08:002013-12-11T15:40:57.316-08:00Oh, I don't try to "correct" my stud...Oh, I don't try to "correct" my students' papers, although I do try to give them ample feedback. Wouldn't it be nice if family difficulties could be dealt with similarly . . . materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-45248114041923513902013-12-11T15:38:27.049-08:002013-12-11T15:38:27.049-08:00I love the way you've been concentrating on Ad...I love the way you've been concentrating on Advent on your blog, a similar project albeit with a different background. . . materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-10947740161074337092013-12-11T15:17:41.986-08:002013-12-11T15:17:41.986-08:00I just read your 2010 blog and I have often felt t...I just read your 2010 blog and I have often felt the same way about the preparations. Some years, it is difficult to do the tree and I really enjoy hanging a few special ornaments on a bough. In my extended family, it is expected that we will follow the same traditions, eat the same meals and see the same people year after year. Take care of your noggin and enjoy your holiday. This will be Harriet's first "real" Christmas.Madame Là-bashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16703782237948233124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-24594038794461349852013-12-11T14:24:07.642-08:002013-12-11T14:24:07.642-08:00So much marking & correcting.But we all get it...So much marking & correcting.But we all get it wrong sometimes & make mistakes.In your year it seems the family feud was not your highpoint.Could you not correct this now?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-28869086341725121752013-12-11T13:41:13.531-08:002013-12-11T13:41:13.531-08:00This is lovely. It's so important to enjoy eve...This is lovely. It's so important to enjoy every day, to savor the anticipation and not rush it. Congratulations on finishing the term (other than the mountain of grading.) Lorriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03653026442945027184noreply@blogger.com