tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post6497382598849147112..comments2023-10-11T04:09:53.564-07:00Comments on materfamilias writes: Monday, Bit of Blue. . . materfamiliashttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comBlogger71125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-414476392728177282016-12-05T19:33:05.378-08:002016-12-05T19:33:05.378-08:00Thanks Brenda -- I'm looking forward to that v...Thanks Brenda -- I'm looking forward to that visit as well. materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-22312380998681956392016-12-05T19:32:36.125-08:002016-12-05T19:32:36.125-08:00Thanks, two important observations, and the comfor...Thanks, two important observations, and the comfort of some hand-holding... and it does, it does shift....<br />xomaterfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-39626205096936664632016-12-05T19:31:07.148-08:002016-12-05T19:31:07.148-08:00Ha!Ha!materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-87529391909523366962016-12-05T19:30:50.500-08:002016-12-05T19:30:50.500-08:00Thanks, Sue. Yes, the zeitgeist is not so friendly...Thanks, Sue. Yes, the zeitgeist is not so friendly to mental health at the moment. . . and this, "the finiteness of our tenure." Truly, it becomes ever more inescapably obvious...materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-70628651890051111682016-12-05T19:29:24.124-08:002016-12-05T19:29:24.124-08:00What a kind and very welcome comment. Thank you.
A...What a kind and very welcome comment. Thank you.<br />And we need a bumper sticker: Eat cake/Avoid gin. . . .materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-27115646521800215202016-12-05T19:28:25.211-08:002016-12-05T19:28:25.211-08:00Thanks Rosie. . . It sounds as if you wrote a poem...Thanks Rosie. . . It sounds as if you wrote a poem for your children, and it was also a lasting gift for yourself. . . very nice!materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-86999881213501750712016-12-05T19:27:36.667-08:002016-12-05T19:27:36.667-08:00or a Tribunal, right?
the lovely comments do help,...or a Tribunal, right?<br />the lovely comments do help, don't they, and they really apply to (m)any of us, at different times...materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-40980496399897715292016-12-05T19:26:45.336-08:002016-12-05T19:26:45.336-08:00Yes, solidarity, and it really does help.Yes, solidarity, and it really does help.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-46452844802031103722016-12-05T19:26:28.942-08:002016-12-05T19:26:28.942-08:00You're welcome, and thanks for the reassurance...You're welcome, and thanks for the reassurance.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-17923046219273704082016-12-01T15:25:18.548-08:002016-12-01T15:25:18.548-08:00To follow on what LPC said above, there's a wo...To follow on what LPC said above, there's a wonderful quotation attributed to various sources, "Be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle."<br /><br />We all do battle with the nature of our existence. Things are forcing their way into your brain about what is ahead: the reality of your move to Vancouver, saying goodbye to the Europe based part of your family. Things are heavy in the zeitgeist right now, which is part of the mix. Looking forward to seeing you perhaps in February or March. BrendaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-65193091324753265042016-12-01T10:22:41.871-08:002016-12-01T10:22:41.871-08:00I've been thinking about this post for a coupl...I've been thinking about this post for a couple of days. First, I'm sorry you have blue days. Even though I believe they are nigh-on universal, still, yours are yours and they are hard. As mine are mine and they are hard and so on around the world.<br /><br />First of all, while I am a firm believer in the impact of privilege, I don't much like the marketplace of grievances that has taken hold, in which one person is not allowed to feel because someone else might feel worse. I just don't think that approach is realistic, or helpful, to making the world better. So if you feel blue in Bordeaux you have every right.<br /><br />Second, I have come to believe that the natural state of mankind is struggle. No matter what, we all have to stay alive. Even if our every need is taken care of, we still have to move about or die. So there's always going to be an edge, a blue day, a stomach roiled by anxiety, random rages. At the very least maybe it's helpful not to cold ourselves for our sorrows. They are part of being human, no matter our good luck. <br /><br />But as I said, the most important thing is your blue day. And I hope it's all passing, or if not, it speaks to you more gently about your responsibility or lack thereof for its existence.<br /><br />Much affection, Frances. xoxo.LPChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18209861350905135093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-79246550995827129492016-11-30T12:54:01.872-08:002016-11-30T12:54:01.872-08:00I'd like to introduce your Inner Critic to my ...I'd like to introduce your Inner Critic to my Inner Critic - I think the old horrors would have a lot in common. I'd also like to poison them both. If I ever find out how to do it, I'll let you know.Marshahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14035642478179187618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-24664541806232791612016-11-30T06:51:18.508-08:002016-11-30T06:51:18.508-08:00Ah Frances, I'm sorry you're dealing with ...Ah Frances, I'm sorry you're dealing with this while on your amazing trip. I'm starting to wonder if this isn't part of the normal human condition. Kudos to you for being so open and honest and not trying to sugar-coat what you're feeling.<br /><br />I've had waves of something similar...part of it is being surrounded by so much change that's out of our control right now, and part of it is just acknowledging the passage of time, and the finiteness of our tenure. Susan Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16005855250089328310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-48821700653791966472016-11-30T00:02:19.021-08:002016-11-30T00:02:19.021-08:00Echoing all the wise words from your friends above...Echoing all the wise words from your friends above. See how many of us you inspire, challenge and delight with your honestly open posts from the front life of your life. <br />Eat cake, avoid gin. Ceri in Bnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-7748861345044396542016-11-29T23:24:30.709-08:002016-11-29T23:24:30.709-08:00Thanks so much, Megs. It does help, doesn't it...Thanks so much, Megs. It does help, doesn't it, naming it aloud, although I do feel a risk in doing so of scaring people away... Why that stigma, I'm not sure... <br />Does chocolate contain serotinin, I wonder? Must test. . . . materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-70969239317229576172016-11-29T23:22:13.518-08:002016-11-29T23:22:13.518-08:00Waving back gratefully, Lorrie -- thank you!Waving back gratefully, Lorrie -- thank you!materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-87703673012424212722016-11-29T23:21:53.370-08:002016-11-29T23:21:53.370-08:00Isn't it a wonderful community, Barbara?! I...Isn't it a wonderful community, Barbara?! I'm so impressed by our collective wisdom and -- even more importantly perhaps -- kindness. <br />How interesting that even as a child, what you got from the myth of Pandora was that message of hope rather than of chaos released. I'm off to reread it now as I'll admit just the words "Pandora's box" summon up a different message for me, one I've just accepted as shorthand without much examination. Thank you!materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-61396093098723754332016-11-29T23:19:11.952-08:002016-11-29T23:19:11.952-08:00Thanks so much for your reassurance and encouragem...Thanks so much for your reassurance and encouragement, Loretta. That's a big move you have ahead of you, but I suspect you have some very good reasons for making it and that there will be many unexpected rewards along with the challenges. Good luck!materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-37752853309542075082016-11-29T22:36:30.763-08:002016-11-29T22:36:30.763-08:00Beautiful photo -- and thank you for unveiling you...Beautiful photo -- and thank you for unveiling yourself to share it. Even more, thank you for "Goldengrove unleaving" which I didn't know and which is absolutely the perfect poem for the moment. I've copied it into my travel journal, in fact. A very thoughtful gift.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-28508783333381722802016-11-29T22:34:29.479-08:002016-11-29T22:34:29.479-08:00Elle, you express your perceptions so well! Blue i...Elle, you express your perceptions so well! Blue is a colour of life, yes! And it's true about that Critic's meanness, bully tactics. Thank you!materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-30184869323184395332016-11-29T22:33:02.777-08:002016-11-29T22:33:02.777-08:00What a relief, Lynn L, and how interesting that th...What a relief, Lynn L, and how interesting that the relief left space for fatigue and sadness in its wake. Everyone would have been expecting you to be happy, thrilled, yet you'd have been exhausted from the inside out after holding your breath for weeks and these reminders of mortality always hit hard. Take care of yourself.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-67186101044289150572016-11-29T22:31:02.945-08:002016-11-29T22:31:02.945-08:00Thanks, slf. It is very good to know we are not al...Thanks, slf. It is very good to know we are not alone, powerful even for me when I tend to feel isolated, a bit alien. . . materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-63819749762107384982016-11-29T22:29:50.029-08:002016-11-29T22:29:50.029-08:00I haven't read her for ages, but now that you ...I haven't read her for ages, but now that you mention it, I remember how good she is on this and will head back to that blog. Thanks so much, Lucille.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-49872337030383841352016-11-29T22:28:32.183-08:002016-11-29T22:28:32.183-08:00So interestingly similar, Lilibet, and thank you s...So interestingly similar, Lilibet, and thank you so much for sharing this. It's very true, for me, that sometimes the melancholy speaks back to the happiness or pleasure -- and then somehow a conversation gets worked out between them and all gets sorted for the moment, some kind of balance. I love your recognition that melancholy or sadness isn't good or bad. It just is...materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-25820041740920317602016-11-29T22:25:56.779-08:002016-11-29T22:25:56.779-08:00Great suggestions, and thank you. I agree re the s...Great suggestions, and thank you. I agree re the surrendering, to a point, although when travelling with a companion, I do feel some social responsibilities (poor Pater!). On the mend now, I think, and I'm looking forward to having that home base again. hugs back.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.com