tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post4255386382458742048..comments2023-10-11T04:09:53.564-07:00Comments on materfamilias writes: Waiting, on Easter Weekend materfamiliashttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-26087419112855792012013-04-01T10:43:28.477-07:002013-04-01T10:43:28.477-07:00Lovely memory.Lovely memory.Stacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12424660063345307786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-5284917172831231262013-03-31T20:06:59.155-07:002013-03-31T20:06:59.155-07:00It was, truly, a good death. Both my father's,...It was, truly, a good death. Both my father's, earlier, and my mother's deaths have made me think I would someday like to take on the hospice volunteer training program -- it's a privilege to be so close to that experience and given our society's seeming reliance on blinkers against the sad, many miss out on its richness. I hope you and your little ones enjoyed all of Easter's wonders today. Thank you again for your thoughtful comments.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-1368695636957224212013-03-31T20:04:04.906-07:002013-03-31T20:04:04.906-07:00Thanks, Sue. She's passed on peacefully now . ...Thanks, Sue. She's passed on peacefully now . . . materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-61980350660389797252013-03-31T16:44:47.274-07:002013-03-31T16:44:47.274-07:00What a lovely story.
Thanks for sharing such an i...What a lovely story. <br />Thanks for sharing such an intimate moment with us.ilonahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09549380953245364444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-56531020598157535802013-03-31T12:30:11.087-07:002013-03-31T12:30:11.087-07:00You write so beautifully about the hard stuff. Tha...You write so beautifully about the hard stuff. That feeling of surreality, I remember it well and it's so disorienting. Your wonderful family must be such a comfort, not only to your Mom, but to you as well. I hope your Mom's transition is a peaceful one, and that you all find peace and joy in your memories of her.Susan Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16005855250089328310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-72362000299585490352013-03-31T10:51:09.508-07:002013-03-31T10:51:09.508-07:00Dear Mater, Your writing is powerful and elegiac, ...Dear Mater, Your writing is powerful and elegiac, I am glad that you bring such complex and heartfelt topics onto the Web, they enrich and inspire your readers, as amply testified by the comments above. What a blessing your mum passed down to your daughter and her daughter, and I suspect blessing was passed up the chain too, there is a special Grace about the newly born. <br />I am so glad glad that your dear mother seems to be experiencing a 'good death', that sounds rather blunt, but truly, it is I think more rare and precious than we tend to realise: pain managed, never alone, as physically comfortable as possible, personal dignity fully respected. It is surely a comfort to her and those around her and all credit to your family for taking the communal decision to mover her to hospice and to the hospice itself for all their, often unsung, great work. Before I had children I was trained as a volunteer who sat with those in hospice who had no one to be with them at the end and it was always a privilege, the close of our mortal journey is just as important as the beginning of it, hence it so very much deserves to be written about and thought about openly. <br />Hope you and yours are experiencing a peaceful Easter of joys as well as sadness, <br />Hester Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-63625337000314602382013-03-30T22:05:13.264-07:002013-03-30T22:05:13.264-07:00Feeling bad for making everyone cry, but there'...Feeling bad for making everyone cry, but there's something about sharing moments that mix life's dark moments with its bright. All seem heightened, intense, rewarding. . . .materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-12568085564563729962013-03-30T22:03:14.471-07:002013-03-30T22:03:14.471-07:00Thank you, Mette. Much appreciated.Thank you, Mette. Much appreciated.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-68745329434956965092013-03-30T22:02:59.470-07:002013-03-30T22:02:59.470-07:00I do wish we could all be surrounded by caring fol...I do wish we could all be surrounded by caring folk when we get to our end -- I'm so pleased that my mother is.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-3267729304941695182013-03-30T22:01:24.488-07:002013-03-30T22:01:24.488-07:00What a lovely thing to say -- thank you!What a lovely thing to say -- thank you!materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-19361295455948782142013-03-30T22:01:06.004-07:002013-03-30T22:01:06.004-07:00The memories of your father's time in hospice ...The memories of your father's time in hospice might mean that you know that this time, as difficult as it is, has its own rich beauty -- it really puts life into a powerful relief.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-91366245913615086902013-03-30T21:59:49.284-07:002013-03-30T21:59:49.284-07:00Yours is a good example of why I'm reluctant t...Yours is a good example of why I'm reluctant to disallow Anonymous comments. Thanks for taking the time to offer your kind sympathy and supportive comment.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-2339545841149319452013-03-30T21:59:07.130-07:002013-03-30T21:59:07.130-07:00I love the idea that you will think my family into...I love the idea that you will think my family into Easter in Paris . . . thank you!materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-79264472389901515302013-03-30T21:58:26.368-07:002013-03-30T21:58:26.368-07:00Thanks, M.Thanks, M.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-2880869096681387302013-03-30T21:58:10.853-07:002013-03-30T21:58:10.853-07:00Yes, I've been so aware, these past couple of ...Yes, I've been so aware, these past couple of weeks, of the relationships between birth and death, the comings and the goings, the impatiences of waiting and the reluctance to let time lapse. . materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-56361189908037760792013-03-30T21:56:39.824-07:002013-03-30T21:56:39.824-07:00Merci, Orane. Merci, Orane. materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-25634038463555003582013-03-30T21:56:09.832-07:002013-03-30T21:56:09.832-07:00Thanks, Lorrie.Thanks, Lorrie.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-68858649874560581842013-03-30T21:55:59.706-07:002013-03-30T21:55:59.706-07:00It's a story I know my daughter will tell Harr...It's a story I know my daughter will tell Harriet someday. . . materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-87796764760207384462013-03-30T21:55:36.083-07:002013-03-30T21:55:36.083-07:00thanks for the hugs, Leslie. xo to you as well. . ...thanks for the hugs, Leslie. xo to you as well. . . materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-46051255506930745032013-03-30T21:55:00.269-07:002013-03-30T21:55:00.269-07:00Oh K, I'm so sorry for your loss. And yes, I d...Oh K, I'm so sorry for your loss. And yes, I do find comfort as you do, in the recycling, the moving forward, the long view. The losses are still painful, but there are consolations. . . materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-30447692425334620512013-03-30T19:12:34.704-07:002013-03-30T19:12:34.704-07:00A profound moment. Though we miss our parents deep...A profound moment. Though we miss our parents deeply, they are present in us and each succeeding generation. This is a comfort to me; I just lost a friend suddenly, and, I hope, to you as well.Duchessehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09986153653120526776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-14022485314466736162013-03-30T18:33:43.851-07:002013-03-30T18:33:43.851-07:00ditto - you are in my thoughts.
what a beautiful m...ditto - you are in my thoughts.<br />what a beautiful moment to share, thank you<br /><br />and yes, i'm crying too.pomomamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08338550638937829078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-59485932020879500652013-03-30T11:37:47.826-07:002013-03-30T11:37:47.826-07:00You are in my thoughts Mater. Take care of yoursel...You are in my thoughts Mater. Take care of yourself.mettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13732534795009852825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-66833999092194978222013-03-30T10:14:42.851-07:002013-03-30T10:14:42.851-07:00Okay, I'm crying now. I usually just hate to ...Okay, I'm crying now. I usually just hate to cry, and will do nearly anything to avoid it, but in this case, I don't mind. I do hope, fervently, that when my own time comes, I have the sort of family near me that your mother has. And I thank you, deeply, for sharing this solemn, joyous story.Marshahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14035642478179187618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-28443914949302145762013-03-30T07:53:05.426-07:002013-03-30T07:53:05.426-07:00The others have said it all.
I am touched by your ...The others have said it all.<br />I am touched by your generosity in sharing this sacred time.Pondsidehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02407539138546412482noreply@blogger.com