tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post361710894396524264..comments2023-10-11T04:09:53.564-07:00Comments on materfamilias writes: Mothers and Daughters . . .materfamiliashttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comBlogger59125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-18169872023646225882012-07-08T11:27:27.360-07:002012-07-08T11:27:27.360-07:00Thanks, Patti. These stories and histories are all...Thanks, Patti. These stories and histories are all so personal; mine has included supportive family and friends. I'd wish that for others with related stories as much or more than the courage -- in the end, I feel as if it's the former that mattered most in this story.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-40761696369238259982012-07-08T11:23:52.353-07:002012-07-08T11:23:52.353-07:00Thanks, Cynthea.Thanks, Cynthea.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-42040967871117418902012-07-05T23:36:31.270-07:002012-07-05T23:36:31.270-07:00A beautiful story--thank you (and all your daughte...A beautiful story--thank you (and all your daughters) for sharing it. You may have given others the courage to pursue their own history of separation and reunion.pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07666392421747356240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-63190851375607873322012-07-04T14:36:20.503-07:002012-07-04T14:36:20.503-07:00Amazing! I hope to talk with you about all of this...Amazing! I hope to talk with you about all of this someday. I am so glad that you have reconnected.Cyntheahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09618572637715350004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-7039533431200069562012-07-03T17:27:56.189-07:002012-07-03T17:27:56.189-07:00I'm convinced your ear and your hug would be j...I'm convinced your ear and your hug would be just what I need . . . thanks, Mardel.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-77375839682261064922012-07-02T09:51:14.646-07:002012-07-02T09:51:14.646-07:00Not tremulous but courageous. Your daughters are ...Not tremulous but courageous. Your daughters are lovely and all look so much like you. My first thought was how brave you were and still are. And then how amazing to have another daughter and to find her. I am sure there has been much whirling and jumbling of thoughts and emotions and I wish you all the luck in the world. <br /><br />Wish I could just sit a bit and proffer a hug.Mardelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04850551308931710502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-83638994192031660692012-06-30T10:01:10.709-07:002012-06-30T10:01:10.709-07:00Yes, careful is a much better word!! P.Yes, careful is a much better word!! P.Patriciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05504513116873595049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-32509308190876882642012-06-30T08:58:59.907-07:002012-06-30T08:58:59.907-07:00xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoLPChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18209861350905135093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-66891302231565164812012-06-29T18:15:50.173-07:002012-06-29T18:15:50.173-07:00Thanks, 60/16 -- if we could ever have the night o...Thanks, 60/16 -- if we could ever have the night of stories that LPC imagines (above), I'd want you to tell of that day with Betty Friedan. Thank you so very much for sharing her wish -- I'm so grateful that women, my daughters included, have new roads to travel. The old ones were miserably potholed and led, so often, to dead ends.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-71341963236699771392012-06-29T18:14:05.443-07:002012-06-29T18:14:05.443-07:00Thanks, Duchesse -- they really are, I think. And ...Thanks, Duchesse -- they really are, I think. And yes, I don't take this reunion for granted, and there is still much more tension around it than one might know from this post, these photos. Comments such as yours, this collective encouragement, helps more than I can say.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-26130652851195773592012-06-29T18:12:17.560-07:002012-06-29T18:12:17.560-07:00In so many ways, I'd want that late night with...In so many ways, I'd want that late night with a sympathetic, somewhat neutral soul who nonetheless cares for me and wants to hear my stories. <br />You hone in on my awareness that everyone's perception(s) of my will shift, but you put that shift in a positive context, thank you!materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-84785848421533584432012-06-29T18:10:09.273-07:002012-06-29T18:10:09.273-07:00Overwhelming was the operative word this week. . ....Overwhelming was the operative word this week. . .materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-76771409308795600902012-06-29T18:09:52.929-07:002012-06-29T18:09:52.929-07:00Thanks, Patricia. I was trying to be careful with ...Thanks, Patricia. I was trying to be careful with my words, rather than crafty, wanting to honour and include everyone. I'm not sure it worked, but that's what I was aiming for . . .materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-34711226592001872762012-06-29T18:08:41.138-07:002012-06-29T18:08:41.138-07:00Thanks, Karen. I would love to believe that, but i...Thanks, Karen. I would love to believe that, but it's more than I deserve. . .materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-56894839586503805932012-06-29T18:08:07.060-07:002012-06-29T18:08:07.060-07:00We've talked about this, Tanis, and I have to ...We've talked about this, Tanis, and I have to say that your experience, your relationship with your adoptive mother, has always been hugely reassuring to me. Thanks for taking time to comment here. But we'll chat more about this elsewhere, won't we?!materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-33920174501381048282012-06-29T08:09:09.914-07:002012-06-29T08:09:09.914-07:00I'm so glad you were able to develop those rel...I'm so glad you were able to develop those relationships with your brothers. And I think the more we talk about these issues, the more we find out how many people are touched by them. I treasure my nuclear family, but as a concept it can be pretty dogmatic and constraining. . . .materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-25830322755865808522012-06-29T08:07:21.630-07:002012-06-29T08:07:21.630-07:00What an odd coincidence! It's definitely inten...What an odd coincidence! It's definitely intense and the waters will continue to ripple around here, I know. Thanks for your good wishes. hugs back . . .materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-91761304739611924612012-06-29T08:06:20.086-07:002012-06-29T08:06:20.086-07:00Thanks very much for your comment, Brenda. It mean...Thanks very much for your comment, Brenda. It means a lot, as does your wish for my family.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-33315539576487704382012-06-29T08:05:48.060-07:002012-06-29T08:05:48.060-07:00A mix indeed -- and there's definitely resembl...A mix indeed -- and there's definitely resemblance, isn't there. . .materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-20644563620252978232012-06-29T08:05:07.862-07:002012-06-29T08:05:07.862-07:00Thanks, Miss C. Much appreciated.Thanks, Miss C. Much appreciated.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-55500927301910138642012-06-28T02:27:29.297-07:002012-06-28T02:27:29.297-07:00Such a moving post about a profound life experienc...Such a moving post about a profound life experience, Mater, and so brave to share the story. But, as you say, you don't want to tippy-toe around something so important. There are stories like this within my own family - and I have my own story - so your words resonated as I read your post.<br /><br />Many years ago, I spent a day with writer, Betty Friedan, and she wrote these words on the flyleaf of one of her books for me: 'Courage on the new road . . .' And that is exactly the wish that I am sending to you and all your wonderful daughters today.60 going on 16http://www.60goingon16.typepad.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-85633052389783664492012-06-27T10:02:57.098-07:002012-06-27T10:02:57.098-07:00All your daughters are so vital and beautiful. I a...All your daughters are so vital and beautiful. I am grateful that such reunions can now take place, thanks to new attitudes and technology, and admire you for taking the steps... which, knowing you, seems just what you would do.Duchessehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09986153653120526776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-44560436841796808072012-06-27T07:45:42.407-07:002012-06-27T07:45:42.407-07:00Oh my gosh. My first thought was "Wow." ...Oh my gosh. My first thought was "Wow." My next thought was, "She is so lucky to have not 4 but 5 children." And then I wanted to sit down with you late at night on a sofa and hear stories. Of course you need to keep them private. But still, the narrative I'd imagined for your life shuffles, like cards, just a bit. <br /><br />I wish the two of you, and your whole entire family, the best of luck and happiness in this new order. xoxoxoxLPChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18209861350905135093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-75631857360729380792012-06-27T07:32:50.151-07:002012-06-27T07:32:50.151-07:00Thanks, Roxanne, it's lovely to hear from one ...Thanks, Roxanne, it's lovely to hear from one of her friends. I can already sense what you're attesting to and hope I'll get to know for myself in the years to come.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-61801081638269034652012-06-27T07:31:35.945-07:002012-06-27T07:31:35.945-07:00Thanks, Hester. It felt like an absolute imperativ...Thanks, Hester. It felt like an absolute imperative, the only response to such a beautiful invitation, rather than an act of courage, but it's definitely a step into the unknown.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.com