tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post2055134050053319066..comments2023-10-11T04:09:53.564-07:00Comments on materfamilias writes: time and shaggy dogs and pretty flowersmaterfamiliashttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-19709767508173454022009-05-09T12:20:00.000-07:002009-05-09T12:20:00.000-07:00Duchesse: I think so, too, altho' I'm glad to be m...Duchesse: I think so, too, altho' I'm glad to be moving away from the stormy years of ups-and-downs of new love! Fielding calls about carrot cakes and what-to-do-with-bulbs-after-flowering -- two of last weeks' questions -- are so much easier than hearing an adult child (such an oxymoron, no?) cry over a hurt heart.<br />BMGM: Have you managed to answer that tough question? Are there elements of her still tucked away? Were some of her hopes validated?materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-70474143865604643092009-05-09T09:26:00.000-07:002009-05-09T09:26:00.000-07:00I joined Facebook a few months ago. A trickle of ...I joined Facebook a few months ago. A trickle of old friends have found me via FB. One posted a picture of my 20 yo self (over 20 yrs ago!), before I got sick.<br /><br />Who is that beaming, trusting and hopeful girl?badmomgoodmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11569728075698885020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-89566694316877557522009-05-09T06:58:00.000-07:002009-05-09T06:58:00.000-07:00Getting the call, whether about TV, a job intervie...Getting the call, whether about TV, a job interview, love, or how to make hollandaise, is what counts.<br /><br />Thanks for this wonderful story.Duchessehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09986153653120526776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-38914557982409909472009-05-08T21:58:00.000-07:002009-05-08T21:58:00.000-07:00Thanks, Belette, I'm really lucky, I know.
Meg: It...Thanks, Belette, I'm really lucky, I know.<br />Meg: It would have been a good one for us to watch together -- with chips or ice cream?<br />Pseu: Yes! Maya's Granny had it absolutely right.<br />As for GA, I can't believe I had to miss it -- my son once noted that almost every episode of it had something that made him almost cry.<br />Sallymandy: I don't think we're very good at acknowledging the role that elders, in the form of parents, still play in the lives of adults. We have put so much emphasis on individuation (over community, really) that we pretend young adults should be completely independent at 18, yet so many of us could benefit from all kinds of mentoring long, long past that. Finding the balance -- allowing kids to be independent enough to build their own accomplishments and learn from their own mistakes yet still supporting them as you might support any friend -- is tough, but I think it's worth working towards.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-57288929342606701762009-05-08T13:32:00.000-07:002009-05-08T13:32:00.000-07:00Mater, thank you for this post. It was insightful...Mater, thank you for this post. It was insightful and truthful. I read with keen interest the stories from parents whose children are a little farther along than mine--I always anticipate the change or losses before they happen. I have one daughter, on the brink of teenager hood, and I need all the examples of mothering I can find. I appreciate yours. You gave me permission to continue to be a mom even as my kid "needs" me less.sallymandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15832828827048897372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-76812096105328570472009-05-08T12:21:00.000-07:002009-05-08T12:21:00.000-07:00My dear, departed friend Maya's Granny used to say...My dear, departed friend Maya's Granny used to say that having a child, even a grown child, was like having your heart walking around outside your body. We probably never stop worrying completely.<br /><br />GA note, even my husband was sniffling a bit at the end of that one. ;-)Susan Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16005855250089328310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-74252740538691169762009-05-08T11:19:00.000-07:002009-05-08T11:19:00.000-07:00Oh mom, it was such and emotional episode, I was h...Oh mom, it was such and emotional episode, I was home alone and I hadn't had a good cry in so long. It reminded me of when I was younger and you and I would rent movies just to have a good bawl. <br />xoxogirlcookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07291227884266644967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904021173466473381.post-4336894266340284782009-05-08T11:03:00.000-07:002009-05-08T11:03:00.000-07:00I love that story about your daughter calling you ...I love that story about your daughter calling you and crying and wanting to share that moment with you. So very dear and so telling about the kind of connection you have. Lovely. and, the Cleamatis ain't bad either.La Belette Rougehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686717070120116918noreply@blogger.com